THE PROCESS
Some of us have done everything everyone has told us to do “right” and yet we reach a point where it’s still not enough. That doesn’t mean you’re broken, judgmental, selfish, or think yourself superior to anyone else, it only means that you want something of your own. It is through acceptance and allowing the integration of your background, story, persona, identity that you can determine what actually feels good and can help you expand and grow.
I have created a simple process that borrows beneficial aspects from the systems we are born into. The process marries the aspects I learned in my career as a finance consultant in international tax with the cycles that exist in the mind with the purpose of offering a perspective to those who can relate so they benefit from it in their own journey. This is particularly helpful to those that can’t assimilate easily into rigid hierarchy-based systems, corporate structures, or incoherent arrangements and feel there is something missing or that the system they operate in is unfair to them regardless of the specific reason, it is an intuitive knowing that they are supposed to be somewhere else and doing something different. This can be identified from the route of the emotion going through the simple and emotionally comprehensive process I have generally outlined in the following steps:
Phase One: Pattern Recognition
Pattern recognition/conduct research/contract review/scoping
Here you will find clarity to determine which of the contracts you agreed to enter into before still have value to you now. By discerning the data collected from repeating patterns, you will be able to clearly identify which relationships are based on respect and reciprocity and which are based on convenience, dominance or control. Allowing guilt and shame to dissipate, and following one's coherent emotions, in this step, all the information that has been externalized or projected due to fears and defense mechanisms becomes an ally for your process of expansion and growth.
Phase Two: Self-Awareness
Self-Awareness/Planning/Implementation/Strategizing/Intention Setting/Determining Goals
By removing any emotional attachments to being right or wrong, the data collected during the pattern recognition step becomes information to create a clear and coherent plan of action moving forward. In this stage, we remove any mental limitations and emotional baggage that hinders your process and allows you to integrate the many tools you have already collected by operating in the many systems you were born into. Resistance stops and movement becomes the main purpose; this step is action based and is highly dependent on consistency because here you create a foundation to pivot from when applying the strategies determined to reach your goals. This step is liberating to the mind because it allows for relationships with healthy attachments to flourish, this is where you find your “tribe” and begin conscious co-creative dynamics with yourself (source) and with others.
Phase Three: Radical Accountability
Radical accountability/Audit/Integration/Creation/Metacognition
You become your own goal; you become your own never-ending project. By recognizing all the actions of your past identities and influence they hold on others without labeling them, only with acceptance, you realize nothing outside can create an emotion separate from you, you are the only one giving value to what you experience. In this step life you become the observer of self of your own thoughts, life becomes your responsibility, you become a conscious creator aligned with all that is.